[Backport] Incorrect computation of nodes to add and remove list

Found an issue where the computation of the nodes to add/remove lists is incorrect.

A recovery rebalance(no topology change) is being incorrectly represented as a rebalance-in operation(adding a node) as seen in CBSE-16450. 

To ensure the correct computation of the nodes to add/remove lists, some changes need to be adapted from trinity, specifically:

1. https://review.couchbase.org/c/cbgt/+/188858 - tracks the previous member node UUIDs on all nodes in the cluster, which are required as a pre-requisite to compute the nodes to add/remove lists.
2. https://review.couchbase.org/c/cbgt/+/207290 - computes the nodes to add/remove lists based on the change topology request sent by ns_server, instead of relying only on the node defs stored in cfg,